When you start to flounder, have self doubts, give up and think — “I can never get into shape”.
- What should you do?
- How do you fix it?
- Or is this just something you have to put up with and it’ll somehow just go away?
Here’s my answer to these three questions…
The SOLUTION lies entirely in your hands!
HOWEVER… in saying this you need to know the HOW and WHY and WHAT to do.
I’m going to give you some great examples NOW, so you can get started asap!
The following tips may seem kinda woo-woo. But they’re not! Far from it! Put these into practice and you’ll find out for yourself how well they really do work.
As you’re reading through today’s lesson, jot down some ideas quickly. Don’t think, “whatever, I’ll do this later”. Do it now! So you can look back at them when you feel you might be starting to go off track, feeling down or thinking that your’re not progressing… so you can gather your thoughts, dust yourself off and get back on board.
By nipping these doubts in the bud quickly… and creating ways, your own personal success system, to deal with them, you’ll be able to stay motivated and focused on your training and nutrition goals helping you effectively and skillfully reach your results.
1. When you’re a few weeks into your program and feeling discouraged, “Congratulate” yourself on how hard you’ve worked leading up to this point. In your journal, a note on your fridge, in your iphone etc – jot down the great things you HAVE achieved with your fitness plan over the past few weeks. Encourage yourself to continue. Keep reminding yourself of the good things you’ve done – not the hiccups.
I performed 2 awesome cardio sessions this week and two resistance workouts. I chose not to binge eat, like I often do. Instead I opted for a cottage cheese, blue berry and cinnamon home made snack, to ease my sugar fix. And I’ve lost 2cm’s from my hip measurements.
Remember that you are already a few weeks into your program which means you are actually closer to reaching your goals than when you started, aren’t you? Remind yourself of that. Don’t give up!
2. If you’ve skipped a couple of workouts you have to put it into prospective. This isn’t really going to wreck your whole life is it? Just make sure you get back on track the next day. Don’t let it throw your eating or any other part of your fitness regime off track.
3. Make a conscious effort to recognise each time you start to think destructive thoughts regarding your self esteem and any part of your fitness plan. Are you doing this often? When, why, what occurs to trigger this? Write it down and be AWARE OF THESE TRIGGERS.
When this occurs make the effort to think of something positive that you know will bring a smile to your face, something that inspires you.
Eg…A specific occasion when you felt super sexy and attractive – how that made you feel. Imagine yourself in that new outfit or swimwear – goal clothing – that you’re dying to wear. Think about how you will feel when you’re looking in the mirror in a few months from now seeing the awesome results you’ve achieved from working hard and staying committed to your fitness program. Picture yourself having fun with your children being fit and healthy. Remind yourself of all the awesome reasons you’re doing this and what the outcome will be.
Imprint them in your mind, write them into your journal – remember them, so you can quickly recall them when you need them. Look at them every day and everytime those seeds of doubt creep in.
4. Create a “plan b” or back-up plan so that you know that if you can’t train that day that you can make up for it with a quick home workout or an “office workout” etc. This way you won’t stress yourself out by thinking horrible thoughts like “it’s all or nothing” or “I have failed”. Think ahead and be prepared. As I’ve mentioned previously, a 10 minute full body interval workout will absolutely kick ass compared to doing nothing!
5. Have a role model or someone for whom you admire, who inspires you, and have their poster or their inspirational words on your fridge, toilet door, bedroom, screen saver on your computer or iphone / smartphone etc.
6. Purchase a book or video eg… that you know will get you fired up about your program … such as stories of folk who have kicked-butt with their own training efforts. Or how about an inspirational story of someone overcoming obstacles in their lives to help give you that boost you need to continue progressing with your workouts?
Before I go onto the next step — I have to get this off my chest. Because I see folk fall victim to this all the time.
There’s some ridiculous crap on tv and you can actually see folk’s attitude change, before your eyes, when they’re watching negative nasty programs. So if you’re feeling like your life is filled with insecurities and pessimism… don’t go getting yourself more fired up and stressed out by watching shows that take you on roller coaster of destructive feelings and emotions. You know which one’s I’m talking about. 🙂 Both women and men fall into this trap.
On the other side of the coin, seeing folk watch shows like… Home Makeover Edition, where they makeover homes for family’s, that have been to hell and back, AND transform and help these family’s. They’re awesome stories and have a “feel good” approach to them. Sure they’re filled with emotion – but positive emotion. There’s a difference!
7. Reward yourself with something cool that you’d really love to do or try… eg new “hair do”, or new gym equipment, new training gear, new gloves, get a fake tan… do something to make you feel great about what you’ve accomplished with your training.
8. Train with someone, or have an accountability partner, who is more motivated than you and that you know will help keep you on track.
9. It’s fun to share your dreams and training goals with someone, so tell your friends and family how you’re progressing and about the new results you’re achieving. Share your happiness and aspirations with others. Let them know you need their support.
10. If you want to connect with others that are in the same situation as yourself, and you’re not getting the support you need from your friends and family, go online and join a forum, or facebook community, blog etc and discuss with others, who have similar interests, your new found results eg.. reduced body fat, increased bicep size by 1 cm, butt and legs more shapelier and leaner, how you’re feeling etc. And of course you’re more than welcome to jump on in on our very own 21 day KSYT (Kick Start Your Transformation) Challenge FB Group – we love hearing from you!
You’re going to find in life that you’ll run into people who will want to be negative or throw you off your goals (note, you won’t find that in our FB group, that kind of nasty stuff is not allowed or condoned).
Here’s the thing… all the stuff we’ve gone over in the previous lessons… self doubt, destructive thoughts, inner conflict is all the things that negative people are experiencing also. If they choose not to overcome it and to take their issues out on others, that’s their problem – not yours! Don’t get sucked in.
You’ve had the courage to change your situation – which is extremely admirable. Think about the awesome life that lays ahead for you… stay focused and enjoy the gift that you’re giving yourself, your family, friends and pets. A positive, healthy, fit you…
Lots of hugs
Mandy 🙂 xo