Is reducing body fat, looking great, feeling terrific just a pile of crap? Do you feel like it’s just not meant to be for you?
You’ve been overweight or struggled all your life… You’ve tried everything, nothing works…
You’re sick and tired of being told to keep persisting when you’re not seeing any results. And you get frustrated, even angry, when you get told it can be done, but you haven’t found a way yet.
First up, it is possible… But here’s the thing…
You have to assess what you’re doing. Because if what you’re doing isn’t working, then it means you need to start making some changes.
Here’s some of the hiccups and hang-ups you can run into
Repeating the same mistakes over and over again. Rather than looking at what you’ve done in the past with your fitness efforts, and getting frustrated. Look back and assess where you might be going wrong. (Sometimes you’ll have a gut feeling of what that is, or what it could be) If you simply don’t know, get help. Hire a trainer, figure it out. Don’t waste years struggling with it. Get onto it and make it happen.
Giving up before you start. Telling yourself your program probably isn’t going to work anyway and then putting in a half-hearted effort.
Quitting after 1 or 2 weeks. Going flat out, overwhelming yourself, making it harder than it needs to be, getting exhausted, then saying “it’s too hard” and I’m not seeing miraculous results. Expecting a massive transformation in 1 week is setting yourself up for disappointment, because you’re not being realistic.
Not even starting. Just looking at your program, and scaring yourself, and talking yourself out of it to the point where you don’t even start.
Not taking responsibility for what YOU could do to change things, instead blaming everything and everyone else.
Confusing yourself. Rather than working on one particular area of your program eg… just your workout to start with or just your nutrition. You try to do everything at once.
Not bothering to try at all. Complaining about your weight, your body fat, your lack of lean muscle but then coming up with every excuse under the sun as to why you’re not doing anything to move forward to fix it.
The “I’m ready, but I’m not really ready”. You tell everyone how much you’d love to get into great shape. You tell trainers, you tell friends, family, work colleagues… Then the opportunity comes along. It’s at your fingers tips…BUT you come up with a list as long as your arm as to why you can’t do it.
In fact you make it sound like you aren’t even interested in improving your health and fitness at all because you’re starting to pull excuses out of a hat, desperate to get out of it. Once you’ve talked yourself out of it you’re relieved. But then a week later, or a month later you regret it and wish you had’ve taken the opportunity. You then get annoyed with yourself for knocking the opportunity back. Sometimes even bagging the opportunity (saying unnecessary negative stuff about it) because it makes you feel better, so you don’t look silly for not doing it. Especially when others went ahead with it and got results.
You don’t only confuse other people when this happens, you start to confuse yourself as well.
And often you don’t realize when you’re doing all this things, just how much you’re really stopping yourself from living the awesome life you absolutely deserve to have and live.
Here’s the good news… These things are common set-backs that can be turned around.
By allowing the years to go by and not figuring out a way to get into shape, improve your fitness, reach your goals, the resentment builds up towards yourself, towards wanting to improve your health and fitness and even towards people that are in great shape. You’re thinking “How come they are… and you’re struggling?”
When I do assessments of my one to one online Personal Fitness Training clients’s fitness efforts – when they first come to me – I often see someone who has made their attempts to get into shape so much harder than it’s supposed to be.
They’ve played mind games with themselves… and their training and nutrition is all over the place. There’s no plan.
Even when they’ve had one, they’ve often tried to implement heaps of other things into it because nothing felt good enough. Because keeping it simple, seemed too easy, like it wasn’t sufficient.
When I say to them “why are you making it so hard for yourself to do this?”… it’s usually out of fear, insecurities, concerns about what people might think, feeling like nothing is 100% perfect for it to happen.
Don’t get hung-up on the hang-ups. Often we get defensive when “hang-ups” and hiccups are bought up. “Who the *beep* does she think she is, saying I’ve got hangups!”. Everyone has them. Hell, I have them with some things, I’m not ashamed of it. That’s just life, everyone does, whether it’s fitness related, work, family…
It’s about saying, “y’know, there are a few things, (fear, excuses, overwhelm etc whatever it may be), that I let get in the way of me getting into shape (or achieving what I’d love to achieve), and I’m not going to let it keep getting in the way anymore.”
You need to be honest with yourself about what you really want.
If you’re wanting to improve your health and fitness – and it doesn’t have to all be about getting into great shape, that’s just a very cool perk of it – you need to get clear about what your goals are and make your mind up that:
– You’re ready and open to make the changes you need to make
– Get real with yourself and why you make excuses, or why you are where you are, if you’re struggling with it
– Don’t over-complicate stuff.
– Make a plan to do it.
Say to yourself, “ok, I’ve got 25 mins here on such and such a day that I can workout. I’ll pencil that in.”
“I’ve got 20 mins on such and such a day to do some food prep – I’ll pencil that in.”
Take some action. Whatever that is. Then start to step it up as you get used to it.
How much time you spend on training and nutrition, and what it involves, will depend on what your goals are. So if you’re clear about what you want you can take action based on that.
Things don’t have to be perfect, you don’t have to get everything right all the time. But it does need to be right for you – as long as you’re honest with yourself, and what you want to gain from it.
By being consistent with a plan, that is genuinely right for you, and is about quality of life, having a positive impact on your lifestyle, will help get you the results you’re wanting so much more efficiently – and with much less stress.
I’d love to hear your experiences with the hiccups, hang-ups, what you think would help get your fitness efforts on track. Go ahead and share in the comments box below.
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